This time of year can become busy with holiday parties, shopping, among other things. With the birth of my first child, my life has changed pace. I only partook in one holiday party because it was a week night. I knew my husband could stay home with our baby. Almost the entire time, I thought about my baby. I prayed things were going well as my husband put our son to bed for the night. Of course, my baby was in great hands, but I just wanted to be there with him.
This time of year is great for practicing boundaries. We are always teaching people how they are allowed to treat us. I went shopping for gifts this Saturday with my husband and our baby. I was excited to get out of the house with our baby. I was beaming with a smile from ear to ear as I held my sweet baby to my chest. Since I am an empath, I can easily read the energy of a place. The shoppers of the grocery store were tired, feeling burnt-out, and some were overflowing with impatience as they were trying to “just get through the holidays”. I prayed for everyone to feel renewed and filled with love. I wanted to share the peace and contentedness I felt as I held my baby with others. I made a point to make eye contact and smile at other shoppers.
I urge you to share your smile with others. If you are feeling burnt-out, I recommend passing on a holiday gathering or give out gift cards instead of searching for the perfect gifts. Cut back where you can and spend time in ways that fill your heart. Boundaries. Just remember “no” is a complete sentence. You don’t owe anyone any explanation as to way you need to pass on something, but you can share if you want. I decided to keep the peace for myself, I would pass on a friend’s Christmas party and my husband’s work Christmas party. Even though part of me wanted to see those friends and meet more of my husband’s co-workers, the majority of me wanted to stay home with my baby. My husband went to his Christmas party and enjoyed himself knowing our baby was in good hands with me at home. I contacted our friends and asked to visit with that couple after the new year. I urged my husband to go to see the newest Star Wars film because I knew that would fill his love cup. I have been filling my love cup with cuddling my baby, yoga, meditation, and writing. Don’t just “get through the holidays” but instead enjoy them!
How can you make room for peace and contentedness this time of year?
Eva Borho, M.A., L.M.T., Intuitive Author, Holy Fire Reiki Master, Spiritual Coach and Teacher