Friday marked 4 weeks from the birth of my son. Today Monday the 27th, he is one month old! In the season of Thanksgiving, people often stop to reflect on what they are grateful for year round. The past 4 weeks have been such an amazing change. I am extremely grateful to be a mother to this sweet angel baby. For years I have been saying the positive affirmation “I create a life that I love to look at” and as I hold my sweet baby, I know that affirmation is true. As I write this post, he is nursing but almost asleep. He is so precious to me.
Change is often something for which to be grateful. I am grateful for change. My life is always changing for the better. I know change, depending on what kind, can be scary. I once had a mystic tell me I am more inclined to seek and undergo change than other people. Change is the spice of life. Motherhood is a change a lot of women undergo willingly so I am in good company. This change has been a time to be surrounded by family and friends. Before and after the baby came, loved ones visited, sent cards or presents, and helped us prepare for this baby in many ways. I am extremely grateful for all their love and support.
Unsupported change can feel uncomfortable to say the least. I pray for all the women who didn’t or don’t feel prepared to be a mother. I pray for all the women who don’t feel supported by family and friends. One of the nights a couple of weeks ago, my husband was feeling under the weather from the change of season. I took it upon myself to take more turns waking up with the baby so my husband could have more uninterrupted sleep to heal. The first night I took all the turns, but that felt unsustainable. The next day I cried not for myself, but for single parents of infants and toddlers. I like my sleep so one night of waking up to do everything was enough to get the picture of what single parents go through. I love my baby, but I also require sleep to function.
With this in mind, I took the opportunity to pray in gratitude that I have a partner to help the majority of the time. The next couple of nights, I took almost all of the turns and would only ask my husband for help once a night. After one sleepless night in particular, I sent my husband a text message in the morning saying I was so tired I didn’t know if I could stay awake during the day with the baby. The baby napped a lot, but he only really likes to nap on me. If I would put the baby down so I could try to nap, he would wake. Things have gotten better since that particular sleepless night, but in response to that text message, my husband came home with a card that evening. He handed me a stack of mail after sneaking his card in the pile. As I opened the card, I cried. The front of the card read, “One step at a time. One day at a time.” Nathan hears me talk about the power of the present moment often and that card was encouragement to just keep focused on the present moment to keep from getting overwhelmed. I am grateful for all the support and love. I look forward to countless more months raising my baby with the support and love of my family and friends.
Thanksgiving is a great time to reflect on what we are grateful for year round. What are you grateful for?
Eva Borho, M.A., L.M.T., Intuitive Author, Spiritual Coach and Teacher, Holy Fire Reiki Master