As a woman 5 days overdue with my baby, some strange fears have surfaced through the people around me. When you use your experiences like a mirror of your unconscious thoughts and fears, the opportunities for healing are endless. Although I know people tend to mean well, I am sometimes surprised by what people actually say. Some people think they are doing you a favor telling you to be afraid, as if being afraid in the present will help you be less fearful in the future. I don’t believe that is true at all though. All worry does is take away your peace at the present moment with no guarantee of anything for the future.
I used the below video to help clear fear about the future. Since I am carrying the baby very in the front, the last couple weeks people in public are often asking me when I am due or saying, “Any second now, right?” Some people are kind and say they will pray for me. A couple people have told me not to wait too long to have the baby or I could end up with a dead baby. What?! Who says that. Wow. I had to think of this as a challenge. If I truly use the idea of my experiences being like a mirror then I can acknowledge that was something I needed to release. Perhaps the people saying it to me needed to release it too so I prayed for them.
The “what if” ideas about the birth have been trying to take up space in my mind and when they come up, I clear them. I have done my research. I know what could happen and yet there are many things that may or may not happen. There are too many to try to control. I release control and the idea of control to a higher power. I am done worry about it. I release all of it for transmutation. Everything will be as it will be. I will be doing the best I can at that time. I refuse to worry about the future.
Action helps to quell anxiety. That is why I would rather take the present moment to tap about the fears than just letting them fester. I still love to practice positive thinking and affirmations, but as Louise Hay once stated, “You have to see the dirt to clean to house.” Tapping is my way of seeing and cleaning the dirt. I am choosing to live in faith that what every happens will be for my highest good and the highest good of my baby. I have done all I can do in the present moment. Instead of worrying about the details of my son’s birth, I chose to know whatever happens is divinely orchestrated.
When have you experienced fear about an upcoming event? What have others told you to be afraid of? If you haven’t already, will you forgive them for telling you to be afraid? They were doing the best they could with the information they had available at the time. Will you affirm to move beyond the fears and perceived limitations of others? May you have peace in your heart as you clear some of the fears and thoughts that crop up from reflection. Only by taking the time to look within can we make deep changes and healing. Similar to the idea of pulling a weed up by the root instead of just mowing the grass.
Eva Borho, M.A., L.M.T., Intuitive Author, Spiritual Teacher, Holy Fire Reiki Master